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How to Release Inner Conflict and Take Accountability for Your Happiness


In this blog post, we will explore the importance of understanding and addressing inner conflict as a means to find true happiness. We will discuss how conflict serves as a sign that something isn’t right, while happiness indicates alignment and being on the right path. By shifting our perspectives and comparing times of inner conflict with moments of happiness, we can identify areas where we may be prioritizing things that aren’t right for us. Embracing our emotions as an inner guiding compass, we can become accountable for our happiness.

The Challenge:

Feeling inner conflict is a common experience. It signals that something within us is out of alignment. However, many of us mistakenly search for happiness in external sources, never realizing that true happiness comes from within when we are authentic to ourselves.

Many have come to believe that happiness is fleeting and never remains long, which is true, because we are never taught to align with our Soul and let it guide us. Instead, we seek to fit in, appease others, and live our lives under a misguided sense of societal obligations. Think about it, how many times have you told yourself that you “have to” do something even though it felt dissonant? As we grew up, we came to believe that we must meet many requirements and responsibilities and that life was just that. But different paths are now open for us to explore.

Gaining Clarity:

If we took time to examine our feelings within our bodies before choosing a direction, we’d find that inner guiding force within us. Emotions after all are motion-driving forces of energy, their purpose is to propel us into action aligned with our Soul, but many of us have learned to suppress those urges rather than explore the truth behind them.

To gain clarity, I invite you to compare and contrast periods of inner conflict with moments of happiness. When you reflect on these experiences, you can identify patterns and behaviors contributing to your feelings of conflict. Our emotions serve as a powerful guiding compass, pointing us toward what truly aligns with our authentic selves. The inner conflict serves as a warning that a choice does not align with our design. Those moments of happiness mark a choice that is our Soul’s true north, however, it is often taken for granted or the cause is misunderstood.

The Deeper Issue:

The deeper issue lies in our tendency to chase happiness in the wrong places. Society often tells us that external achievements and possessions will bring us happiness, but true fulfillment can only be found when we honor our needs and remain true to ourselves. In past moments of happiness, we misconstrue the feeling of resonance within us and attribute it to something external rather than an internal phenomenon. When we do so, we begin to fall into an illusion that happiness can only be gained outside of ourselves through acquiring or achieving. When we learn to question those feelings within us much deeper and explore the root of the cause, we find that there’s an inner fulfillment of our Soul, reaching a sense of harmony within us from the experience, rather than the actual external gain. As we discover the true causes of these moments, we are better equipped to make choices that align with our innermost selves, experiencing more and more feelings of happiness.

Have you ever noticed that inner void or disappointment that follows a constant seeking to gain physical possessions or the ‘ideal’ relationship or status? It feels almost like a sort of empty satisfaction and you might wonder what’s wrong with you because you “should” feel happy about your achievement but it seems to fall short. That is an indication that you were trying to seek that feeling of happiness from outside of yourself, and no matter how much you acquire in this way, it will never fill that inner void. Instead, you must learn to let it lead you toward more aligned choices and experiences that fulfill your Soul and not some misplaced idea from society as to what you “should” want for yourself.

Different Perspectives:

To begin shifting our perspective, we must begin recognizing when we are doing things that aren’t right for us. When we are aware of these actions and choices, we can make informed decisions that align with our true selves. This inner alignment leads to a sense of happiness and contentment.

To choose the path of happiness and soul alignment, it will take consistent practice and awareness to explore your inner feelings and use them as your guidance, as well as becoming comfortable in making choices that are in your best interest, without regard for what others may think of it. You’ll also be pushed beyond your comfort zone, but growth and change are never found inside of that comfort zone anyway. As we begin to do that, we become accountable and responsible for our happiness, placing that power back where it rightfully belongs— in our own hands.

New Opportunities Presented:

As we become more accountable for our happiness, we have the opportunity to bring more of ourselves to each moment. By embracing our authentic selves, we can make choices that reflect our values and desires, ultimately leading to a more fulfilling and joyful life and leaving the inner conflicts and dissatisfaction in the past.

I invite you to take a few moments each day to reflect on small moments of happiness that you experienced through your day and begin to explore what about that experience resonated with you, then consider moments of inner conflict (anger, sadness, frustration, disappointment, etc.) and what those feelings were trying to propel you away from, and where it may have been trying to move you toward something else.

The Choice Ahead:

The choice is in your hands now. You can continue chasing happiness from external sources, or you can choose to navigate life from your inner compass. By diving deep into your emotions and exploring their messages, you can begin to make rapid adjustments to your life that keep you on the right path as you move forward. All it takes is the willingness to recognize and explore your feelings in each moment and choose the path that resonates with your Soul.

Are you ready to release inner conflict and take accountability for your happiness? Join me on a journey of self-discovery and learn how to navigate life from your inner compass. Explore the messages behind your emotions and make real-time adjustments to lead a more fulfilling life. Embrace the power within you and choose yourself first. Schedule a call with me to learn more.

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