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Moving from doing for to doing with.


We can often guilt ourselves into ‘doing for’ others, leading us to burnout and resentfulness.

But there is a difference between ‘doing for’ and ‘doing with’.

You know that saying, “You can lead a horse to water, but you can’t make it drink,”

that’s exactly what I am talking about.

Just imagine trying to force the horse to put its head near the water and make it drink. I can only imagine the amount of energy we would expend and the frustration it would cause us..not to mention how ridiculous we would look. Lol.

We can’t take responsibility for others’ choices. They have to choose for themselves. We can guide, teach, mentor, and support them, but we can’t do it FOR them. Despite all of our efforts to do so.


One of the significant lessons I learned along my journey was to stop trying to do FOR others, and instead create space to do WITH them.

Especially as a mother, I felt guilty and told myself that my daughter depended on me, so I needed to do all of these things FOR her.

Let me tell you, when I stopped doing it myself (trying to control the outcome), and instead taught and guided her- it was a massive transformation for her. She believed in herself, became more independent, and behavioral issues disappeared.

It’s not just in parenthood that this applies though. In so many areas of our life, we try to force and control others’ actions, though well-intentioned, we are doing FOR them, leading to their internal rebellion and resistance.

You can open up a world of possibilities when working with me, but I’m not going to do it FOR you. It’s up to you to decide that you want this life and take the necessary actions while I guide you through it.

Are you ready to change your life and release the guilt, resentment, and frustrations?

Let’s work together!

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